Relationship Test

Relationship Test

For Work

Elements of good relationships at work include having trust in coworkers and their work, acceptance or understanding of each other, contributing your share as a team member, and most crucially open communications.

When searching the internet on how to improve work relationships, the most important step listed is to know yourself.  All elements of good working relationships are built upon this foundation.  You might think you or that the problem lies with the other.  While that might be true, changing yourself changes others.   The first step in good work relationships is to know yourself.

We recommend the FIRO for understanding your interaction behaviors and MBTI for understanding your personality as relates to interactions and relationships.  We have picked out the best work relationship assessments to help you address the various aspects of working interactions you encounter daily.

For Conflicts

Conflicts are part of human nature.  Knowing how most effectively resolve conflicts is therefore an essential part of working and living.

There are roughly 5 styles of conflict resolution. Three are distinctly ineffective at resolving conflict.  These are associated with insecure attachment leading to emotional immaturity.  Effective resolutions to conflicted relationship rests on personal growth and development to emotional maturity.

Ineffective ways to resolve conflicted relationships

• Avoiding – ignoring or pretending the conflict happened or exists
• Capitulating – accepting or accommodating the other person’s point of view without adequately addressing one’s own
• Competing – also known as standing your ground is driven by a need to win without adequate consideration of the other and their perspective

Effective ways to resolve conflicted relationships

• Compromising – occurs when both sides look for common ground negotiating on larger issues and letting smaller ones go
• Collaboration – is the most effective conflict resolution style because it involves thinking creatively to resolve the problem without concessions.

TKI Conflict Management Inventory is the most useful in identifying the 5 conflict resolution styles listed above. Consider adding coaching to develop new more effective ways to approach conflicts.

This Myers Briggs uses personality to identify your conflict style to discover your natural way of approaching conflicts.  This is a first step to growing into more effective ways of handling conflicts in relationships.

For those who want to focus on professional growth which includes developing more effective ways to resolve conflicts consider the Work Relationship Toolkit in this category.

Relationship Test

For Leaders

Effective leadership rests upon premiere human relational skills. Those leaders who understand themselves and others well tend to be rated as superior managers. We offer numerous assessments to understand yourself and others in general but under this banner we offer those that are directly related to leadership.

Emotional maturity is the new frontier of research with the discovery of attachment styles in adults by Sue Johnson in 2006.  It is marked by clean communications, capacity for calm under conflict, and being appropriately vulnerable (open to one’s own emotions and those of others).

Leaders with emotional maturity are most enabled to develop a host of relationships skills such as clear and clean communications, conflict resolution skills, effective motivational approaches, discerning capabilities in subordinates, and simply relating to others well. This comprehensive relationship test bundle assesses these leadership relating skills.

We offer no emotional maturity test in general.  However,  FIRO identifies relationship factors for effective leadership while Myers Briggs identifies personality factors impacting relationships.  The combination of the two is particularly helpful.

For Managers 

This quote: ‘Management is not for the emotionally fragile” is profoundly true.  It is for the emotionally mature.  Tests are being developed for emotional maturity. It taps into childhood attachment style we develop in response to our upbringing, and which plays itself out in either secure or insecure ways.  Since its application to adulthood was only discovered in 2006 for couples much research is underway for other adult applications including management.  The best tool currently available which taps into this foundational factor is the FIRO.

Take the FIRO with MBTI to understand your internal relationship behaviors for management which provides suggestions for growth and effectiveness. Look here for specific challenges with employees such as communications, conflicts, interaction behavior mode, influencing, and how one’s innate aptitudes impact leadership and associated work relationships.

For Couples (Partners and Partnerships)

We offer one assessment for relationship pairs of all kinds whether it is a marriage, business partnership or with a pair of colleagues or boss-employee relationship or personal partner.

This relationship test offers insights into each person’s personality and their way of relating, plus it offers a joint assessment which describes the strengths and weakness of that pairing.  This is useful in order to better understand effectiveness to be capitalized upon, and interventions needed to improve the work they do together.